1. The Best Gift to Give Yourself and Others by Jim Rohn
2. Vitamins for the Mind—Values by Jim Rohn
3. Seven Things You Must Give to Others If You Want to Achieve Success! by Zig Ziglar
1. The Best Gift to Give Yourself and Others by Jim Rohn
I’m often asked the question, “How can I best help my children, spouse, family member, staff member, friend, etc., improve/change?” In fact, that might be the most frequently asked question I receive, “How can I help change someone else?”
My answer often comes as a surprise and here it is. The key to helping others is to help yourself first. In other words, the best contribution I can make to someone else is my own personal development. If I become 10 times wiser, 10 times stronger, think of what that will do for my adventure as a father… as a grandfather… as a business colleague.
The best gift I can give to you, really, is my ongoing personal development. Getting better, getting stronger, becoming wiser. I think parents should pick this valuable philosophy up. If the parents are okay, the kids have an excellent chance of being okay. Work on your personal development as parents—that’s the best gift you can give to your children.
If you have ever ridden in an airplane, then you might have noticed the oxygen compartment located above every seat. There are explicit instructions that say, “In case of an emergency, first secure your own oxygen mask and then if you have children with you secure their masks.” Take care of yourself first… then assist your children. If we use that same philosophy throughout our whole parental life, it would be so valuable.
If I learn to create happiness for myself, my children now have an excellent chance to be happy. If I create a unique lifestyle for myself and my spouse, that will be a great example to serve my children.
Self-development enables you to serve, to be more valuable to those around you; for your child… your business… your colleague… your community… your church.
That’s why I teach development skills. If you keep refining all the parts of your character (yourself, your health, etc.) so that you become an attractive person to the marketplace, you’ll attract opportunity. Opportunity will then begin to seek you out. Your reputation will begin to precede you and people will want to do business with you. All of that possibility is created by working on the philosophy that success is something you attract by continually working on your own personal development.
2. Vitamins for the Mind by Jim Rohn
Values
The major value in life is not what you get. The major value in life is what you become. That is why I wish to pay a fair price for every value. If I have to pay for it or earn it, that makes something of me. If I get it for free, that makes nothing of me.
All values must be won by contest, and after they have been won, they must be defended.
Don’t sell out your virtue and your value for something you think you want. Judas got the money, but he threw it all away and hung himself because he was so unhappy with himself.
Values were meant to be costly. If it doesn’t cost much, we probably wouldn’t appreciate the value.
Count the cost first. Don’t pay too big a price for pursuing minor values.
3. Seven Things You Must Give to Others If You Want to Achieve Success! by Chris Widener
A major part of the process of achieving success and living the kind of life that you dream of is to give. Many people think that to get what you want you have to take it. There is a universal truth though that the true path to get what you want is to give. When you give, you get. What you sow, you shall reap. If this is true, then what is it we must give? I’ll show you the way…
Give Others Your Honesty
The world we live in has a simple rule that most follow: Lie when you have to. Unfortunately, this may make some people wealthy but it makes us humans poor. To achieve success is to become wealthy not only in money, but in character. To be successful, truly successful, is to be able to attain your goals and keep your character at the same time!
“Honesty is the single most important factor having a direct bearing on the final success of an individual, corporation or product.” —Ed McMahon
Mr. McMahon is right, though others will tell you otherwise. Some people will say, “You have to bend the truth to get ahead.” Not true. Some of the most successful people who have ever lived were honest people.
How about you? Are you honest in all things? The problem with little lies is they become big ones. Lies spin out of control. You get caught in one lie and you lie to get out of it, etc.
In all things and at all times, give others your honesty.
Give Others Your Respect
Most of the time, we give people respect based on what they have done or what they have accomplished. We gauge whether or not they are “worthy” of it based on what we know of what they have achieved or who they know or are related to.
But I believe we should have a higher standard. We respect people not for what they have done, or for who they are related to, or for what they can do for us. Instead, we respect people for simply being.
What would happen in our world, in our company, and yes, even in our families, if we started with respect for everyone else rather than making them earn it? I think we would see that most people would live up to the respect that we give them!
Give Others Your Vulnerability
We are taught to “be strong.” And yes, we should be strong. But we have also embraced something that I think keeps us from having the kind of life that we long for. It is an attitude that keeps us from experiencing the kind of relationships that would bring deep meaning to us. It is our attitude about vulnerability.
“Make yourself vulnerable and people will step all over you!” It is true that this will happen. But I have also seen that most people will be drawn to you. They will help you. They will open up to you. You see, we are all broken people inside. We all have secrets. Yet everyone plays the poser. When one lets down his veil, others soon follow—and we all win.
Give Others Your Care
Too many people are running around this old earth not caring about others. The days of “Look Out for Number One” and “Winning through Intimidation” are over! Let’s bring about a new day when we can care about others AND succeed!
Take the time to show people you care. Listen to them. Empathize with them. Love them. Now, I don’t mean that you have to go around hugging everyone—that probably wouldn’t fly in corporate America anyway—but we can take some time to step back from business and be human! And I have found that when we do so, our business succeeds as well!
Give Others Your Passion
There is nothing this world needs more than passionate people. And people need passionate people. Living in this day and age can be tiring. The hustle and bustle of it all can wear you down and tire you out. Give your passion to others and fire them up.
Don’t just be humdrum. Be excited. Give people all the energy you can muster. And you will find that energy reciprocal. They will get energized and passionate. This in turn will fire you up more when you are already charged and get you going when you don’t feel like moving at all!
Give Others Your Experience
We all have areas that we excel in and they are usually areas that we have experience in. One of the things we can do to make our lives more meaningful and be of utmost help to others is to show them the way through the experiences we have.
Sometimes it will be what they should do: Shortcuts to take, people to meet, etc. Sometimes it will be what they should not do: Shortcuts not to take and people to stay away from! Whatever it is, we can be of service to others by giving them our experience and ultimately it will make us all better!
Give Others Your Help
All in all, what we want to do is to help others. Zig Ziglar says that if we will “help others get what they want, we will in turn get what we want.” If we want to be successful, we should consider ourselves servants of other people. What can we do to help them and make them better? This is the true path to greatness and success, not only in business but in life!
If you want to live the life you have always dreamed of, ask yourself if you:
Give Others Your Honesty
Give Others Your Respect
Give Others Your Vulnerability
Give Others Your Care
Give Others Your Passion
Give Others Your Experience
Give Others Your Help
“Somebody says, ‘Well, I can’t be concerned about other people. About the best I can do is to take care of myself.’ Well, then you will always be poor.” —Jim Rohn
“Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.” —Jim Rohn
Make it a Great Week!
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Welcome to all who have joined this Jim Rohn community.
It has been a little over two weeks since Jim’s passing, and the outpouring of heartfelt emotions and memories shared via postings (more than 5,200) on the Memorial Wall at the Jim Rohn Tribute Site continues at a steady pace.
Jim’s friends and admirers come from all over the world and from all walks of life. Below are a few postings on the Memorial Wall from names you may recognize.
I was blessed to meet Jim Rohn 32 years ago at the age of 17. I sat spellbound in a room with 1,000 people as I watched this extraordinary human being articulate the depth of caring and emotion that I knew we all felt in our souls—and he did it all with mere words! Jim became my role model, my boss, my mentor and later my friend. There are no words to describe the impact he has had on my life. His philosophy of love, growth and contribution still shapes me to this day. There will never be another Jim Rohn, but his spirit continues to work through all of us who have had the privilege to be touched by him. God bless you Jim! —Tony Robbins
During the 40 years I knew him and shared the platform with him, no one ever talked the talk and walked the walk with more wisdom, clarity, passion and excellence than Jim. He will always be the one role model and colleague who raised the bar the highest for the rest of us. God Bless You and Keep You, Jim. Your humble friend, Denis Waitley
It was 26 years ago when my friend handed me a cassette tape and told me that I must listen to it right away. I placed it on the console of my 1964 Ford Thunderbird and fully intended to do so. It was two months later that I found that cassette in between the seats of the car and popped it into my deck. From the instant I heard his golden voice, I was mesmerized by Jim Rohn and his message that anything is possible. Jim has and will continue to be my true north to set my personal compass by. Jim, you will be missed for sure, but you shall also be held dear to us all in our memories and our lives going forward. May God hold you tenderly as you have done for us through the years. —Joseph McClendon III
If you haven’t already, we encourage you to visit the Jim Rohn Tribute Site and post your own reflection or memory of Jim. You may also be interested in joining and sharing with the community of more than 30,000 Jim Rohn fans on Facebook.
This Christmas week, the newsletter’s theme centers on giving. We hope you enjoy the issue, and we wish you all the blessings of the season.
“Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.” —Jim Rohn
